10 things you need to know about true love
Finding the 'Love of your life' can be a difficult task. Here are 10 different pieces that will make you reflect on the search for the right person.
Finding the 'Love of your Life' is not an easy task. A 2013 Siemens study found that 73 percent of people feel that their current partner is not their true love. In fact, 17 percent of respondents said they knew the love of their lives, even after they started dating their current partner.
"The survey highlights some colorful revelations about people's love lives," a Siemens spokesman said, according to the Daily Mail. "The results showed that it can be hard to find ... What is alarming is that many people claim to be in long-term relationships, or even married, with someone who is not the true love of his life. "
The journey to find the love of your life can be difficult. In fact, 'YourTango', which publishes surveys about love and relationships, found that people have 285,000 to 1 chances of finding 'The One'. But hope is not lost.
Here are ten things you need to know about the search for the love of your life to put in your favor those probabilities of return. The 'only love' can not exist.
1. Storyline : The love of your life can not become real. Heidi Priebe wrote for 'Thought Catalog' last month that "some people waste a lot of time looking for the love of their life, even when he or she can not exist.
In fact, love is such an important facet of life that people spend too much time looking for someone who meets their standards, which prevents them from knowing someone who can really make them happy, "Priebe wrote.
"If there's one thing we all have to stop doing, it's wait for someone else to appear and change our lives. Just be the person you've been waiting for (your whole life), "wrote Priebe for 'Thought Catalog'.
"Live your life as if it were your great love. Because that is the only thing that is known for sure, through every triumph, every failure, every fear and every achievement that you will ever experience until the day of your death; that's what you're going to keep in mind. "
2. You have to become the 'Love of life': The writer and pastor, Andy Stanley, has a simple idea in his new book "The new rules for love, sex and dating" - instead of seeking the love of your life, put yourself in that place and be that person, "Stanley said in an interview this week for Aaron Cline Hanbury's Relevant.
"The subject of the book is" we must be the person we are looking for, "Stanley said. "Are you the person you're looking for? The reason why this is important is because, in all areas of life, we understand that preparation is the key to success, but when it comes to relationships, we believe that not, that commitment is the key to success: no I need to prepare for a relationship, I just need to know the right person and commit myself to it. "
3. The 'Love your life' may not be until much later: Amanda Jo, from the publication 'Elite Daily' wrote in 2013 that her parents did not realize they were the 'One' for the other until later in life . She used this example to explain that finding 'true love' is not about looking for it, it is about finding someone who will live life with you, through "the good, the bad, the ugly, the sad".
She said that people who make each other happy should strive to keep their relationship alive as long as possible, especially when that relationship makes both partners stronger, smarter, and wiser.
"If she makes him feel alive, and makes his heart feel at home, he stays and does everything possible to make it work, since, as he said, there is no greater remorse than letting his 'love' find another 'love', and in the last moments, in the end, to wish that everything could change, "Jo wrote.
4. A list can help you find the love of your life: Some may say the love of your life does not exist, or that you will not see that love come. But for those who are dedicated to the pursuit of their true love, creating a list of qualities, which they would like in their partner, may be the best method to choose the right person.
Dr. Stephanie Sarkis wrote in 'Psychology Today' in 2012, that the list should include 10 to 20 different grades, which should be written with simple phrases, such as "non-smoker" or "have to have a healthy lifestyle, "Sarkis said.
5. The list can help people fall in love with the wrong person "When you meet the boy of your dreams, take a look at the list," Sarkis wrote. "Falling in love can cloud your judgment.
Does your beloved comply with the elements of the list? Do not worry if someone does not match all the elements, you are not looking for the perfect Mr. Find Mr. Perfect for you, where gathering most of the points on a list is a good sign ... "Dr. Carmen Harra, of the 'Huffington Post', offered 13 questions that people should ask themselves before deciding on the ' Love of your life ', and that may appear on your list.
6. The 'Great Love' may not be what you think Margaret Philbrick is in 'Relevant' she wrote earlier this year that it's never easy to find love. He commented that once compiled a list of characteristics that wanted in a husband (believer, fun, and of good family) only took to the men who made him unhappy.
Philbrick suggests a more faith-oriented approach to the pursuit of true love. You must find someone who is right, not someone who thinks it would be better for you.
7. The 'Love of your life' can give you a false idea of love Allison Vesterfelt wrote for 'Relevant' that, among other things, "the idea of finding love puts a lot of pressure on each appointment, or the time when we we meet someone. " She said that the idea of 'The One' makes people think that every potential suitor should act like a blue prince or a dreamy woman or 'Dream Girl'.
This creates the false idea that love is a fairy tale. "Romance exists, and it's nice, but it's not a fairy tale," Vesterfelt wrote.
8. 'True love' can come back to you Earlier this year, many people used social networks to find the 'love of their life' that escaped them, according to 'The Telegraph'. In fact, the old lovers found each other through viral messages of Facebook and Twitter, despite having been separated for many years.
'The Telegraph' mentions a story in which Patrick Moberg, who met a girl on a Brooklyn subway train but lost sight of him before he could talk to her, met with the girl after a sketch drawing in a notebook of the two, which went viral over the Internet.
"It may be a story as old as time, but lost connections have become a standard feature of a modern romance," The Guardian reported. "But, thanks to the enormous reach of the media and social networks, these brief meetings these days have the opportunity to become something more."
9. The 'Love of your life' is not always the same person for everyone Kelsey Borresen, of the Huffington Post, reported in April that relationship experts have different ideas of what "true love" is like for some and others, which shows that this 'Great Love' is different for each person.
For example, Winifred Reilly, a licensed marriage and family therapist, said he knew that his partner was the love of his life because he never ran out of things to tell him at each of his appointments. "Not once did we get bored, or were we left without things to tell us. I knew then that in 10, 20, 30 years later, we would still be talking, laughing, keeping life fresh and interesting, "Reilly said. "And we are like that."
10. It is dangerous to call someone the 'Love of your life' if it is not: The Ambrose girls in 'Elite Daily' commented that there are some dangers in calling someone 'The One', whether it is finally true or not. It puts a lot of pressure on your partner, and throws them into a marriage relationship before the rings are exchanged.
In the same way, you can put your relationship on the fast track to compromise, when neither of you is prepared for it. "Now that you have already put the label 'The One', your mind is stuck in that relationship will be your 'forever'," reported Elite Daily.
"Most of us are stubborn as hell, so let's move mountains and endure a lot of evil just to show that we're right. Therefore, if your relationship is not really that big, you will refuse to see it. "
There is something you must do first before seeking the love of your life: Dr. Phil McGraw has a simple advice so you can find it: "First you have to find yourself", according to an excerpt from his book.
McGraw wrote that people need to understand themselves and their own desires before they can define what they want in someone else. "To get where you want to go, you're going to have to rewrite the script for your life and become the star," McGraw wrote. "And you have to define who you want your gallant to be. Then you will know exactly what you are and what you are looking for. Do not try to be everything for all people. Do not try to guess what a man wants and suffer by transforming yourself into him. You'll be the best you can be, instead of someone you're not, and I promise you this will be more than enough to create the love you want. "
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