True love is not something you find, it's something you build

Finding love is a pleasant accident. You know someone great, you spend time with that person, you get to know her and, if things are aligned perfectly, you end up "finding" love.

People from all over the world fall in love every day. Love is not a rarity on this planet.

But true love does.

True love is what has what it takes to overcome the test of time.

It is flexible, adaptable, always growing and changing. And it's incredibly uncommon as it needs a lot of time to develop. You have to be with someone for years to know for sure that what you have is not any love, it is true love.

Love is something precious, but there is nothing more precious in this world than true love. Not because it's too pure (people are imperfect beings, so nothing can be really pure, right?), But because it is honest and real.

And in a world like ours, this is more than you can expect.

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True love is based on trust and respect, and both need considerable time to develop.

It is true that some of us are more confident than others. But the more experiences you have in love and relationships, the more suspicious you become.

This is because there are people who have failed you, who have let you down. People who did not want to see that they were capable of behaving like that. And with each failed relationship we become more closed and less willing to open our hearts to other people again.

And is that true love is not something that you find or with what you stumble. It is something that you build, slowly and with great care.

But for true love to be formed there must be monumental levels of trust between you and the person. You have to trust that that person will be there for you, no matter how hard the road is.

You have to trust that he or she will not abandon you when things get tough, when you screw up, when they try to separate you. You have to trust that each morning, he or she will wake up happy to see you are at their side.

This level of trust and respect takes years to build and is the base where true love rests.

True love is not a feeling, but a way of being.

Relationships, even the "best" ones, fail.

People make mistakes. People change. People allow their egos to absorb the best of them and stop being the friend, lover, companion that their partner deserves.

The true love, however, is not an emotion. It is not a way of feeling. It is a way of life.

It's about being there for the person you love because you do not conceive it in any other way. And even more than that, it is about striving to build such a strong bond with that person that even when one of you leaves this world, the love that united you still alive.

The only way to make sure that what you have is true love is to take a look at yesterday, all those years in which you were side by side going through the good and the bad, and understand that the only way in which that you could have gotten here is because you both share true love.